Entries by Gerry North

WHEN THERE IS MORE THAN ONE MAN IN THE BEDROOM

Many gay couples come for counselling wanting to discuss having sex outside their relationship. Gay men need to negotiate this issue maturely, as having sex with others is a threat to relationship intimacy – but not talking about it is an even a bigger one. Having a monogamous ideal is fine, but keeping it all […]

RELATIONSHIP LONELINESS AND SELF-REGULATION

It is easy to become lonely in relationships when it is perceived the other no longer sees, listens or validates. The odd thing is that when you dig a bit deeper you usually find both partners feel lonely. Learning simple skills can do wonders to eradicate loneliness in couple domestic life. Ask this question often; […]

SEX ADDICTION TREATMENT

SEX ADDICTION TREATMENT Frank wanted his life back. He had been spending hours, sometimes almost all his weekends, in front of his computer, feeling compelled to look at pornographic websites. At our first appointment, he spoke about the importance of ‘getting it out in the open’ and his hope that this might help. Thinking about […]

DEFINITIONS FOR GAYCOUNSELLINGLONDON.CO.UK

Definition of Psychotherapy Psychotherapy is the use of psychological methods, particularly when based on regular personal interaction, to help a person change and overcome problems in desired ways. Psychotherapy aims to improve an individual’s well-being and mental health, to resolve or mitigate troublesome behaviors, beliefs, compulsions, thoughts, or emotions, and to improve relationships and social […]

TWO SIMPLE WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Do you feel communication is failing in your relationship? Are you sometimes walking on eggshells not saying what you really want to? Are there major issues that have never been resolved? Do you feel stuck or lonely in the relationship? Well let us consider two factors that can change all of that. And you don’t […]

HOW HEALTHY IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC?

HOW HEALTHY IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC? You have been in a relationship for a while however the way you are communicating with each other is not healthy or positive and you know it. And the reason is more than likely the relationship dynamic that has developed. Let me explain. The dynamic is the mental attitude […]

COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN IN RELATIONSHIPS

COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN IN RELATIONSHIPS Communication breakdown is one of the major issues couples say is the problem in their relationship. The love underneath is felt but a distance has been created where there seems little to say to each other and a sense of boredom has crept in. There are many causes of this that […]

INTERNALISING HURT WILL MAKE YOU MENTAL

INTERNALISING HURT WILL MAKE YOU MENTAL We are all guilty of it; internalizing hurts with problems in close relationships. Our mind seems happy to churn things over, day and night, inventing scenarios and stories on who is right or wrong. Exhausting stuff! Let’s say you have been criticized or put down by someone and you […]